Supporting a Survivor

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Violence is Common

Anyone can experience dating/relationship violence, sexual violence or stalking regardless of class status, race, ethnicity, ability, gender identity, sexuality, or spiritual, religious, or faith based identities. We know that this type of violence impacts us all, whether we have experienced harm or someone we know has.  At PCC we can all play a role in supporting students and helping to end this violence. 

Trauma Informed Responses to Disclosures as a PCC Staff or Faculty Member

At PCC, we’re dedicated to making sure our learning environment is free from any kind of sexual discrimination or misconduct, this includes dating/relationship violence, sexual violence, sexual harassment, and stalking. We all play an important role in this commitment.

First, it is important to know what level of privacy you are able to keep on behalf of the the students that you work with.

These privacy levels include: DRAFT DEFINITIONS
  • Privilege: Legal responsibility to maintain confidentiality. Staff at PCC who hold privilege include Counseling Services and the Outreach and Advocacy Project.
  • Non-Reporting: Some departments have been identified by PCC as non-reporting for purposes of Title IX. This means that when staff are fulfilling responsibilities related to these departments, they will not report any instances of dating/relationship violence, sexual violence, sexual harassment, and stalking that they learn about. This includes all of PCC’s Identity Based Resource Centers. 
  • Responsible Employee: Everyone at PCC who either does not hold privilege or has not been identified by PCC as working in a non-reporting program is a Responsible Employee. This means you’re required by the college and the federal government (Title IX Regulations) to report any instances of dating/relationship violence, sexual violence, sexual harassment, and stalking that you hear about to the Office of Student Conduct and Community Support.
If you’re not sure what your privacy level is, please reach out to your manager or the Office of Student Conduct and Community Support to learn more.  

More Information for Responsible Employees

As a Responsible Employee, you must share all information you receive about incidents of dating/relationship abuse, sexual violence, stalking, and sexual harassment with the Office of Student Conduct and Community Support. Some students will not want you to make this report and will want to keep their information private and confidential. Please consider the following when talking with a student.  

Importance of Transparency:

  • Inform students of your role as a Responsible Employee early in your conversation so that they can decide what information to share with you. For survivors of violence, their autonomy and choice has been taken away. Giving the power back whenever possible supports healing and better outcomes for our students.
  • If a students shares something with you that you must reports, tell the student before you make the report. By explaining what to expect and why you have to make this report, you are showing respect to the student and let’s them know where they still have choice in the situation.

Share Campus Resources:

  • Share about the Outreach & Advocacy Project. OAP will reach out to all students named in a report to Student Conduct and Community Support, and students are more likely to respond to our outreach if they are expecting it. This way we are able to explore their options in a confidential manner.
  • Share other campus resources including Counseling and Identity Based Resource Centers, spaces where students can explore what they have experienced and their information will stay protected.
  • We can support student autonomy by giving them choice whenever possible.

Warm Handoffs:

Here’s how to support a survivor while maintaining confidentiality if you’re connecting them with on-campus advocates:

  • Explain What You Can Do: Tell the survivor how you can help, but also mention any limits to keeping things confidential (for example, if you are a PCC Responsible Employee).
  • Let Them Lead: Make sure the survivor feels like they’re in charge and can guide the process.
  • Ask Them What Matters Most: Find out what’s most important to them right now, and what they need most.
  • Understand Different Priorities: Understand that what’s important to you might not match their needs.
  • Give Them Choices: Offer different options for support without overwhelming them. Ask what they think would be most helpful.
  • Offer More Support: Ask if they’d like to talk to an advocate who can provide extra resources and help, like PCC-specific support, community help, safety planning, or discussing reporting options.
  • Make Sure Referrals Are Right: If you don’t know much about a resource, offer to call together to learn more and make sure it’s a good fit.
  • Be Honest: Don’t say you’ll do something you can’t. It’s important to keep trust.
  • Follow Up: If they need more info about a resource but can’t stay for a call, don’t promise to look into it later if you can’t. Not following up can make them feel let down and make your job harder.
  • Focus on Their Strengths: Instead of trying to solve everything, focus on their strengths and how they’ve survived tough times.

Following these steps helps you support survivors while keeping their needs and privacy in mind.

Practice Statements:

If you are a Responsible Employee, here’s a script you can use when you first meet a student or if you think a student is going to tell you about something:

  • “Hey, just so you know, I’m required to report any incidents of gender or sex-based harassment, violence, or discrimination that you tell me about, both in and out of the classroom. I would need to report it to the Office of Student Conduct and Community Support, including your name. They would then get in touch with you to offer support. You can find more info on how they handle reports on their website.
  • However, if you want to make a confidential report or get information about resources and extra support, you can contact the Outreach and Advocacy Project, Women’s Resource Center, Multicultural Center, Veteran Resource Center, Queer Resource Center, or Counseling”

Resources for Friends and Family

Connect with Campus Confidential & Non-Reporting Resources!

Campus confidential resources are available for warm hand offs to best support students after disclosures, but they are also available for staff and faculty to discuss a situation with a student to determine best next steps. If you are wondering how to support a student who disclosed, or you think may have disclosed, reach out to the following resources to talk through the situation: